Guiding Your Kids – How Should A Parent Treat Their Kids?

It’s obvious extremely critical in child raising to have solid, firm boundaries. Several times when I am in the group of children and their parents I frequently observe how some parents treat their kids as friends not as kids. The children in this kind of deal usually have no respect for their parents since no restrictions have been set down for them to follow.

Children have to to learn the value of limits and restrictions when they are little, if the parents treat them as friends they will never realize borders. A young person that has never been taught limitations and the differentiation between an authority figure and a friend figure will carry that mystification into later life and most likely get themselves into mess by doing something that they shouldn't do or just go too far with a prank or something that they think is funny when in fact it is something that they shouldn't be doing in the first place.

I just had an incident in an eatery where two 4 or 5 year old boys were getting bored and started playing in the restaurant. They went to their mom and started hitting the back of her chair to get her to go and play with them, when that didn't work they took her purse and started throwing it around all the while laughing and yelling to their mother to "come and play." When this whole thing happening the children's mother was sitting there laughing at her "friends" wanting her to come and play with them. The children took it more by dumping her purse and taking all of the coins that fell out and using them in a vending machine close by. When the children were finished with their mother’s purse they went and grabbed another customers purse and start to run around with it. The woman that owned the purse ran over to the kids and got her purse back and yells at their mother for not disciplining them. The woman could have without problems called the law enforcement and made things rough for the kids and parents, but she did not.

The mother in this case obviously had no control of her children. The children looked at their mom like one of their friends and not as an power figure. As a parent it is your job to inspire respect for others and their possessions in your children, if that lesson doesn't come from you they will most likely never learn it.

This kind a behavioral troubles that result from a lack of leadership could cause communally intolerable traits in the future. Children, like the ones in this case, are not a enjoyment for any person to be around, including the families.